“Sometimes you have to play a long time to be able to play like yourself.”
- Miles Davis, American jazz musician
Often, the discovery of one’s unique gift and contribution to the world requires time to unfold through trial and error, practice, patience and persistence.
Like many, I have found “in the meantime” is challenging. There’s a rush to have it all figured out, but as my wise aunt Joni once reminded me, focus on the journey not the rewards or destination.
During my journey so far I’ve learned buying into fear keeps me on the sidelines and does not keep me safe, nor do answers magically appear…
"Diving in" into the deep end and exploring - making mistakes - however, does end up providing answers. (You have to be willing to get in, get messy, and practice until you are fine tuned.)
As the Tao of Pooh reminds, approaching life and its challenges with a student mindset (always open to learning vs. being a know-it-all) is key to discovering who (you are) and what (unique gift) you can offer.
Therefore, welcome setbacks as lessons, opportunities of refinement/practice, and occasionally indicators you need to head in a different direction.
Be open.I know I have been - life has cracked me open. Every time it does, funny enough, I become more happy… and more effective at what I do. I now welcome challenges as they serve as practice fine tuning the way I show up every day. They help me let go of what is no longer serving me and invest more into my strengths.
And in the meantime, I intentionally identify the blessings I have today, as they bridge yesterday and tomorrow with a feeling of possibility that anything IS possible.
The good, the bad and the in-between are all a part of our journeys of refining our uniqueness. Embrace the journey. Practice. Mimic. Let go of what’s not authentic or real to you. Hold on to what is. Create. Stretch. Show up. Try.
The real you will appear.